How To Tell if your spouse is cheating

There are numerous ways to tell if your spouse is cheating.  When men and women are unfaithful to their spouses, their actions become obvious – if you know what to look for.  Cheating can be separated into categories which include the most commonly seen cheating behavior.  The categories are:  Day-to-day behavior, computer use, and accountability.

Changes In Day-To-Day Behavior

The first sign that tells you that your spouse is cheating is when day-to-day behavior changes.  They may lose interest in work projects at home, or they may state that their employer has suddenly imposed overtime hours on a regular basis.  If you question their lack of interest in the work projects at home or ask why they’re working overtime, they may become evasive or refuse discuss the details.  Their evasiveness or refusal to discuss the situation is a ‘red flag’ and can indicate infidelity.

The details which accompany an explanation for a change in day-to-day behavior may be untrue.  If they are, it can be assumed that your spouse has something to hide and may be cheating.  If he/she is hiding an affair, he/she knows that telling you of their infidelity will damage your marriage and may result in divorce.

Computer Use

Computers have revolutionized our society, and they have made it very easy for us to meet each other without having to leave our homes.  There are several prominent indicators of a spouse cheating by using the computer.  Your spouse will spend more time on the computer than with the family.  This increased use of the computer may extend late into the night, while you are sleeping.  If you look to see what they are doing online, they may use the “quick click,” from one screen to another, to keep you from seeing what websites or chat rooms they are visiting.  As a result, your spouse may state a need for privacy while online.  Sometimes you can tell if your spouse is cheating by reading email messages.

Communications Devices

When someone wants to engage in infidelity, there are numerous communications devices to help him/her cheat.  Cell phones and pagers provide freedom for infidelity.  Cell phones and pagers allow mobility and secrecy for cheaters.  They can be used far away from home, and they are widely used by millions of people.  A cheater can arrange a meeting with someone in public without drawing attention to their behavior.  Phone calling cards provide an easy method to call someone, and the cheating spouse doesn’t need to have money for the call; it’s been paid in advance.  If the cheater uses a cell phone, they can place calls at all hours.  If a call comes into a cheater’s home late at night and an unsuspecting spouse answers the phone, the caller can hang up to avoid detection or a confrontation.  Checking phone messages and unfamiliar phone numbers may tell you that your spouse is cheating.

Accountability

Cheating spouses refuse to be accountable for their infidelity.  They may ask the non-cheating spouse about their activities when away from home, but they won’t discuss their own.  The non-cheating spouse may start catching him/her lying, and he/she responds by immediately becoming defensive.  Also, they may “blame the victim” and accuse the faithful spouse of not trusting them.  If the cheater begins to spend less time with the family and is away from home often, they may refuse to discuss why they are distancing themselves from the spouse or children.  Excessive or unexplained absences from home are another way to tell if your spouse is cheating. It is relatively easy to tell if your spouse is cheating.  All the faithful spouse needs to do is utilize common sense and not engage in denial.  If someone is demonstrating the above behaviors, it is  likely that they are cheating.  A person doesn’t have to be a professional private investigator to come to the conclusion that a husband, wife, or partner is being unfaithful.  The evidence will present itself; how it is interpreted and used is up to the faithful spouse