Fantasy Talk: How to ask for what you want in bed

Sex: How to ask for what you want in bed and have great coitus
1. Open your mouth

You need to realize that communication is key. If you are feeling unsure, start with a test by dropping a small hint about what you're craving. When you are met with your partner's enthusiasm or even curiosity, it's a huge win because you then have the confidence to have a deeper, more detailed conversation the next time around.

2. Respect

Another important factor is to pay attention to the person you are communicating with about this intimate act. So if you are dealing with someone who is not considerate and doesn’t show you respect outside the bedroom, chances are pretty good you aren't going to get what you need in the bedroom either.
3. Always listen

Asking them questions about what they are looking for during sexy time is another icebreaker that may get you deeper into the conversation. It's also a good way to gauge how open the person might be to your interests.
4. Be bold

While many women may be hesitant to talk about what they want lest they come across as too forward or, heaven forbid, too sexy, it's important we proceed anyway. After all, we deserve to get what we want, and we all know the most effective way to do that is to ask for it.

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